Sunday, 28 June 2009

Wear Sunscreen

How are you?
You good?
Sitting Comfortably?

Then I shall begin.

Gonna warn you from the outset though that this is one of the more "emo" and "angsty" entries so if you're not up to it I'll understand if you leave now {pauses for people to click the "back" button, type in a new url or simply smash up their computers at the thought of angsty Chris}

Ok don't say I didn't warn you....

So, me, Chris. Since university I have made the conscious effort to be an open person - not to hide feelings and to say what I think (usually unless it is at work or around neds....) and I do believe it is the best way to live. People are more responsive to open people, you know where you stand with them, you know what they think about you and it in turn encourages you to be open when dealing with them.
It's vital to be open and honest with friends - otherwise what's the point? Lies and deceit are no basis for friendships or relationships.

The biggest problem that comes from being an open person however is that you leave yourself open to be let down lied to and made to look stupid - it's a pretty big risk but I believe it is worth it because ultimately feelings heal and if you are an open honest person you'll have people around you that you can rely on and turn to when you've been let down.
Yes you may have been stupid to be so open but ultimately the shame is not on the person who has been made to look stupid but on the person who has abused the character.

This then leads to the question as to why some people treat others the way they do? Are they selfish? Are they cowards? Are they scared?
It probably boils down to several different character traits - none of which are necessarily irredeemable nor may they be true reflections on the person who has them. People are often just victims of the circumstances and the times they find themselves in. Unusual situations can cause people to do things they didn't think they could or be people they didn't think they could be.

However despite this it is important to believe in the power of forgiveness and change. As they say in the film American History X: "Hate is baggage". This is one of the truest quotes to ever come from the world of film I think.....well that and "Old age. It's the only disease, Mr. Thompson, that you don't look forward to being cured of." (Citizen Kane). To err is human, to forgive, devine.
It is important to understand things from all sides of the argument. To understand the difficult situations people find themselves in which make them act the way they do. This understanding in turn leads to acceptance.

It is probably important for me to point out here that despite this preachy tone I am not above the sort of person who in the past has hurt people and been selfish and reckless with people's feelings.
However I have stated many times how important friendships are to me and friendships are nothing without trust. Life, if nothing else, is a great lesson on humanity's capacity for compassion and understanding. Teaching us how as people we are merely organisms who have created a community where we interact and crash into one another, before dissapearing in the flash of light that is our lives - relatively short in the grand scheme of things.

On this note it brings me to my conclusion....
Life is short. Too short not to enjoy it or put up with other who abuse yours. A famous speech says: "Don't be reckless with people's hearts, but don't put up with people who are reckless with yours".
Amen to that.

Apologise if this has been vague in content and a bit philiosophical and wanky - however at least I have the presence of mind to appreciate when I am being wanky!

Until next moral dilema....

Over n Oot!

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